What’s up guys? I’ve got a little insight that I wanna share with you.
I’ve been playing around with my breath lately and I feel like I’ve hit a sweet spot. I’ve slowed my breath right down. I used to do it years ago and I kind of forgot about it for a while but I’ve got back into the momentum of taking some time throughout the day, as often as I can, whenever I have a little moment, just to connect with my breath. Slowing it right down, bringing it deep down into my belly, to the point where it feels natural -supernatural.
The in-breath can be fairly quick. Just breathe out very slowly and then you can allow the breath to snap back in. After such a slow out-breath you’ll find your lungs naturally want to expand to allow the oxygen back in. It just seems like an automatic action. I just allow it to happen. And then on the out breath very controlled and very slow, I feel the weight just drop from my shoulders as I do.
I feel all my muscles completely relax. I feel like all the tension has dropped away.
And as a result of that I noticed that I’m having conversations much more easily.My social interactions are much more comfortable. I don’t have to think about what I’m saying. I don’t have to think about what I’m doing. I don’t trip over my words and get nervous. I don’t feel like I’m stuck in the ego.
Sometimes I’ll be having conversations and I think “I shouldn’t say that” because I’m afraid of being perceived in a certain way or “I shouldn’t say this” because I’m afraid of coming across like I’m giving it the big-un. But when I breathe slowly I’m more relaxed, conversation just flows and I don’t worry about things. It feels much more comfortable.
And it got me thinking… I sometimes get uptight when I’m in conversation and I put it down to my confidence. I think “I need to work on my confidence, I’m not confident enough” but I’ve done a ton of work on my confidence- and I’m still not confident enough? What’s up with that?
Then I realized, when you just relax, confidence isn’t an issue. You don’t need to think about what you’re saying or what you’re doing. You don’t need to be confident, you just be who you are. The ego is gone. You’re not giving it the big-un. You’re not trying to impress people. You’re just being yourself. Very relaxed. Very comfortable.
I think if people could just relax a little bit confidence would be a lot less of an issue. There will be more to it for some people, they may have some beliefs that are holding them back or a misalignment in their values, but for me it made such a massive impact just to slow my breath down and feel the tension drop from my shoulders, from all my muscles and feel more comfortable.
You don’t even have to be in touch with your breath all the time, you can just do it a few times throughout the day and the tension drops. Then you can just go about your day and you don’t need to think about it.
Just take regular intervals throughout the day. Whenever you’ve got a few moments, just get in touch with the breath, slow it right down so that you can allow that tension to drop and see how much easier and enjoyable your life gets.
Just a quick lil tip. Give it a whirl. Let me know how you get on with it. Put your thoughts in the comments below. If you’d like any more help with that than just can’t touch.
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